It seems you can find a website about anything these days. If you want a recipe for a clambake, it’s there. You need to buy 1000 wrapped sporks? You can find it. There are even hundreds of sites to look at humorous pictures of zoo animals.
In fact, there are sites that meet every need a human being could ever have. Now, there is one more.
Everyone has seen a woman eating by themselves in a restaurant. There are several thoughts that go through your mind when you see it. Why is that woman alone? Is it her personality or does she have some sort of fear of bathing? And why did she order an entire family size portion of lasagna, but get a Diet Coke to go with it? She should know that the diet beverage does not counteract the 8,000 calories of lasagna she is ingesting.
Now, though, someone has created a website that will prevent these judgmental glances in the future. On Invite For a Bite, women can log on and find a dinner buddy, replacing the weird glances from strangers with weird conversation with a stranger.
As a man, I have no such issues. I don’t care who watches me shovel food down my gullet. I am too busy chewing to notice, plus I’m usually done eating in five minutes or less. To get some perspective, I have called on my wife to help explain this phenomenon.
Nathan: Why are women afraid to eat by themselves?
Nathan’s wife: I don’t know. I don’t sympathize with them.
Isn’t that kind of sexist of you?
I’m a woman. Would I be sexist against my own gender?
You might be a self-hating woman.
I guess they might be self-conscious and imagine more people are paying attention to them then actually are. They are either very narcissistic or self-conscious.
Which would be better: eating by yourself and having strangers stare and point at you the whole time or eating with a stranger that may be the most unpleasant person you have ever met?
Eating by yourself, by far. Then you can leave whenever you want and don’t have to make up an excuse
If you really have to eat out and you’re that worried about it, just order in.
Let’s say, hypothetically, your favorite restaurant does not take to-go orders. You have to eat there. At the table next to you, there are a group of people who are loudly saying things like “LOOK AT THAT LADY EATING BY HERSELF! SHE MUST BE FRIENDLESS AND INCREDIBLY UNPLEASANT TO BE AROUND!” Since they are clearly watching you eat, what do you order so as to limit the judging?
This is about ordering?
And I’m concerned about being judged in this scenario?
Yes. You are very self-conscious because you didn’t have time to take a shower today, so you look a little gross.
It’s a Thai restaurant. They don’t have salad.
A soup? They have a lot of soup in Thai restaurants.
Fair enough. Now, you have received your soup and these people are staring at you every time you take a… bite? Do you take bites of soup?
Every time you take a slurp. What do you do to make it look like you do have a life and aren’t just a homeless woman eating soup in a Thai restaurant?
Check your phone a lot. Play “Words with Friends” so it looks like you’re really busy.
There’s no cell service. And they know that.
Now you’re just being ridiculous. What restaurant has no cell service and why would everyone know that?
I can’t answer that.
I have to go do laundry. Leave me alone.